Dept. of Family

Saturday, 17 August 2013 02:48 pm
kaffyr: Mid-afternoon view from the spirit world train. (Train view)
[personal profile] kaffyr
This is My Mum, My Mom, My Mother
 

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And I am so very glad I have a chance to show you what she looks like right now.

We had a very good visit this morning; the joy in her face when I walked in to the hospital was wonderful. We spent a lot of time with our arms around each other, which is very important for both of us. And I am looking forward to visits every day. (I probably will visit her again tonight with my stepdad. My brother made certain I have access to a car, which allows me to help him get to the hospital, rather than him having to take one of the infrequent buses.)

There's so much I could say but what I'll say right now is that today was good. We talked about life, about forgetting, about dying, and these are all things we needed to talk about.

And when I wandered into the center of town after my visit, I stopped at the lone bookstore to check on a book of poetry I wanted - and lo and behold, there was a childhood friend who now lives about 60 miles away, who I'd visited back in April, but who I'd had no idea I'd have a chance to visit. So we had a lovely cup of coffee, and here I am, typing up a post to all of you before I go back to my mom's place (AKA "there are no connections manor".)

So, yes, a good day, as these kinds of days go. I hope your various Saturdays also went well.

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 06:08 am (UTC)
shanghaied: (we are stardust)
From: [personal profile] shanghaied
So much strength in that face. And she's passed it along to you. Just saying.

We're all dying from the moment we're born. If your mum is dying faster than some of us, it's worth noting that what shows on her face in these photos, right now, right here, is life.

Date: Monday, 19 August 2013 09:12 am (UTC)
shanghaied: (baobabs in a wheatfield)
From: [personal profile] shanghaied
Well, I have, after all, made my living as a wordsmith for many years :-)

Please tell her from me that she's very welcome. And I hope the two of you enjoy every moment of this series of visits.

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 12:13 pm (UTC)
st_aurafina: Katara hugging her grandmother (Avatar: Katara hugs)
From: [personal profile] st_aurafina
Oh, these photos are heart-melting. I'm so glad you had a good visit, and talked about all the things you wanted to.

Date: Saturday, 17 August 2013 08:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] viomisehunt.livejournal.com
You look very like her.

Date: Saturday, 17 August 2013 09:39 pm (UTC)
ext_73228: Headshot of Geri Sullivan, cropped from Ultraman Hugo pix (4 tulips)
From: [identity profile] gerisullivan.livejournal.com
Yes, I see your face in hers, much as I know it's that her face is carried on in yours. I love both pictures, for different reasons. In the second, the way her hand is cradling yours as you are cradling her in your arms...my heart melts with joy for the love the two of you so obviously share.

My heart melted all over again when I read about how important holding each other is for both of you, especially right now as I've spent a week immersed in how important the same thing is for both Susan and Gavi. And, oh, today's conversation, talking about things the two of you needed to talk about. What a gift. A hard gift, one I had the treasure of having with both my parents. More directly and rationally with my dad than with my mom, but it was even a comfort with her, diminished as her capacities became as life's end drew nearer still.

I'm glad you had a good day on the spectrum of how these kinds of days go. It's a good day here at Toad Woods, too.

Date: Saturday, 17 August 2013 10:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] heatherbelles.livejournal.com
Sending love and hugs, MamaK

Edited Date: Saturday, 17 August 2013 10:20 pm (UTC)

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 06:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] heatherbelles.livejournal.com

Yes, I have been a bit MIA this summer - busy at work, etc etc. Never doubt that my love is with you!

The icons cropped from a painting called 'Loves Messenger'. It's by one of the few female pre-raphaelite painters, Maria Spartali-Stillman (she also posed, as one of the 'Stunners' in their circle).

I'd not heard of her before going to an exhibition of Pre-Raphealites from the Delaware Collection @ Nottingham Castle (with Pandrea, IRRC!), but I love some of her stuff now. I'm also rather fond of some of the works she modelled for!

I just though it was an approriate icon, glad you liked it!

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 04:19 am (UTC)

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 07:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] apostle-of-eris.livejournal.com
((bows humbly))

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 11:03 am (UTC)
thisbluespirit: (dw - amy)
From: [personal profile] thisbluespirit
:-/ ♥

And they're lovely, lovely photos.

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 12:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] namarie24.livejournal.com
What wonderful pictures!

I'm so glad you're having this good, solid, sweet, precious time with your mom.

<3

Date: Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:32 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] namarie24.livejournal.com
Not yet - we're spending a few more days settling in and buying things for our new house before we cross the border and try the consulate that's near our current location. We'll update when we find out more. Thanks for asking!

Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 02:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] a-phoenixdragon.livejournal.com
Ohhhh, she is lovely - as are you!! This made me so happy! What a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing her with us!

*hugs you tight*
Edited Date: Sunday, 18 August 2013 02:04 pm (UTC)

Date: Monday, 19 August 2013 02:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] a-phoenixdragon.livejournal.com
Aww, sweetie... Bless you both. I hope she knows what a wonderful daughter she has (though I'm quite sure she does!) and how lucky we are that she shares you with us all! Especially the crazy people from Louisville. *Grins*

Hubby, me and the babies send love!

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